In my previous post, I talked about the difficulties I had to change my love relations, and how I created them myself.
Yet, if I created them, I can also create new things ; )
The origin of our limits
Ready to listen to things you’ve never heard of? Things that are going to seem absolutely far-fetched?
So let’s go!
As you already realized, your limits are vastly in your head. You have the same physical and mental abilities as any other person, and yet some perform extremely well in some areas of their life whereas you do very poorly.
Why that? Because of reasons that are totally translated into emotions in your personal life.
A timid person is so because of his image of himself, his thoughts and beliefs. Of course all that has a reason to exist, I mean a cause that triggered it.
Let’s say when he was a child this person was treated as not reliable, or I don’t know what other reason. And so the experience of this child became the one of someone who has all reasons to be shy.
Now this person grows and becomes an adult. And he has every reason to realize this shyness has no real grounds. He should then change little by little his perception of what is real and what is just an impression. What he feels but has no grounds in the reality and what is really happening.
I’m not saying it’s very easy and that one can do that instantly. But when you realize that you fear something and that something doesn’t really exists, you finally loose your fear of that nothingness.
What I’m pointing here is that although we inherited of false perceptions and fears when we were young, we should all have corrected that once we grew up.
The preservation of our limits
For some reason we tend to keep our inner false perceptions. And if I would tell you that you could easily change them, you won’t do it either!
You don’t believe me? Ok, so let’s do it!
Your brain doesn’t really interpret things differently whether you actually live them or you imagine them vividly. In a way, it still happens in your brain, and that’s basically the same thing!
So if you really want to create another reality in which you’re going to be at ease and accustomed, you just have to imagine whatever pleases you, and do it as often as you want.
If you want that to be as efficient as possible, put as much emotion in it as if you were actually living it. It has a lot to do with how our brain stores data and interprets them!
Do that twice a day (2 minutes) for 30 days: results assured!
Just one thing: you control yourself, the kind of persons you suround yourself with, your reactions and abilities, but no one else! Remember: we live in a free world where everybody is free to choose his experiences! You as everybody else.
Even if you think that’s worthless, what’s the trouble to try it? The thing is that very few people are able to imagine something the say they want for 30 days straight!
Why? Because that’s not what you want!!!
We all prefer to keep our stories as they are. All!
It doesn’t make sense? But are you willing to spend two minutes twice a day visualizing the result you want? Are you doing it?
This is why we keep our inner limits.
Why do we prefer our limits
There is a reason why we prefer our limits. Not that we directly choose to keep them. But what we want is opposed to changing those limits.
Think about it… Most of the time this is what we have within us.
We want :
- Recognition by a particular person, our parents, a certain kind of authority, a certain domain…
- Recognition of our suffering, of the injustice we’ve been through
- Recognition of our value
And many other things.
Does that ring a bell…?
Those kind of reasons all have in common something. If we want to prove how what we’re expecting from the world is important, it must have consequences!
If you are perfectly fine despite this lack, then it is clearly not a big deal. Right?
But, I would say that when we were a child, all that was a big deal! The problem lies in the fact that growing up we never corrected this perception. We should have, sooner or later, realized that we were totally independent from what one is willing to recognize.
The only thing that keeps our limits alive is our willingness to show how important is what has been made to us.
So our bitterness and resentment towards what happened is the key element that prevents us from getting rid of our limits.
Our limits are the proof that we’ve been hurt!
Now, I know this is difficult to believe, and that wouldn’t make any sense to me for years!
What makes me become aware of this reality is when I try to visualize a world where I have everything I want, with a lot of nice people around me. And that raises a problem! I’m just not ok with that sensation!
And that’s where I can feel that I do have some resentment about certain situations. I am angry at certain persons or in certain contexts. And the world where I have everything working fine doesn’t allow me to express that resentment. There are guilty persons around me! And that can’t be true if there are no consequences.
Why it is so easy to change?
Now once you become aware of what’s happening in reality, things become much easier.
First you realize that your sensation of difficulty to imagine something good is only caused by a resentment.
Then you reason with yourself, and you think how highly unrealistic it is to be resentful towards people who are exactly like you. I mean people who are lost in their own stories and craving for some sort of recognition.
So you stop arguing that someone is responsible for your life, and you start realizing you have all that you want around you. It is just a matter of choice! Either resentment or everything else you want!
Then you make another choice, and start to focus on what you truly want. Meanwhile you continue to reason with yourself to break all previous habits, like negative thoughts and stories!
Very quickly, if not instantly, you witness how all that change of mindset is powerfull and decisive!
The more you witness it, the more you are convinced of this reality.
Want to try?
Easy!
First decide what you want to change in your life (something that makes you really enthusiastic! Not a trivial thing…).
Then you take two minutes (or more) to imagine you have everything working fine in this area. You imagine a scene where you have everything you want. Try to be as precise as possible, and use as many senses as you can (look, sounds, feelings…). Feel the emotions that go with it!
When you feel ill at ease with what you want, it’s time to make things clear. People all have the same problem as you. All! No need to expect them to give you something they struggle to give to themselves. Whereas it is your father, your boss, your spouse… It doesn’t matter, because the real problem is not there. Neither for you nor for them! We are all responsible for our life, and we all have full power over it!
So use it for yourself now that you realize it ! And everybody around you will be much happier at the same time!
Let people be what they want to be. If one is not as you would like, you can find one hundred others that will fit what you want a hundred times better! Imagine they are close to you, all around. One here, the other there… You are just focused on the ones you want to see in your life, and that is enough to trigger your brain (or whatever controls everything) to find out other sources in your life.
Can you feel the joy to experience a life where everything unlocks? Where you can express yourself fully and freely? Where you can be fully yourself and express all your value at all times? Where you can share all this value with people that enjoy it with you and share the same kind of values? Where you are surrounded with people you love so much? Where there is abondance of everything, of love, of friends, of energy…
Everthing else is not important as nothing prevents anything at all from happening for you. Should something not happen as expected, you have one hundred other possibilities even better!
Are you still resentful and bitter about life and people?
Probably not if you live in this reality. Want to try to let resentment aside and live a real life?
That’s up to you. But if you don’t take two minutes twice a day for thirty days, at least be honest: you didn’t want to change your limits ; )
