You certainly know the story of the glass that you continue to fill even when it’s full. Then it overflows.
The moral of the story is that there is nothing else you can add if you don’t empty a full recipient first.
Guess what: we always want to change important things in our life but we forget that we need to create that emptiness first.
And we have already filled some parts of our life that seemed lacking something.
It clearly doesn’t bring us what we want, but at least we try to make the situation a little bit more bearable. That’s often why we overindulge: eating, drinking, smoking, overactivity, laziness… But that can also be a passion into which we put all our time and energy.
The problem is that it doesn’t solve anything.
Now let’s say I’m working a lot so that I can’t feel a lack of love in my life. It doesn’t really work, but at least I don’t have much time and much awareness to focus on this problem. And during the time I’m “elsewhere” I feel less suffering.
Now assume you don’t really enjoy your life and you want to clearly improve it. First you have to realise what is the real problem. And it can already be very difficult as you do everything to avoid this awareness.
Let’s consider you know your real problem. You want to spend more time to make friends, spend time with people you really enjoy, etc… But you don’t really have time for that. You have to work a lot!!! And maybe you don’t realise that this amount of work you got used to was just there to compensate for your lack of love.
That becomes obvious now: first you need to make some emptiness in your life -here, in your work- so that you can then refill it with what you desire. With a much better choice.
Not that the work you were doing was not interesting. But if you want a better result, you also need to let go of the “not too bad”.
And that’s this emptiness that makes us afraid. Because obviously we are “loosing” something. And we can feel the consequences!
Most of the time that loss will happen without us asking for it. We’re going to feel intensely that loss, something difficult to live with. We’ll be sad, desperate, or even lost!
But in reality we have just the space necessary to really get that change we wanted so intensely!!! That was just the inevitable prerequisite to get much much better!
I suggest each time you loose something in your life, you try to perceive what you can now gain instead.
Don’t hesitate to see big! Life brings us many opportynities to get what we deeply want.
And remember that this uncomfortable feeling of loss is actually the sign that you can now fill your life with what you intensely wanted!!!
