It is said that in life we have two goals: either to be happy, or to be right!
I thought about it a minute or so… and it says a lot on my own behavior!
It says that I always want to be right. That’s very important to me that I feel understood. It says that I kind of feel threatened when someone doesn’t agree with me.
It seems that we profoundly confuse ‘disagree’ with ‘dislike’. When you think about it, it is true that when we were young we had to behave the right way in order to feel loved… Maybe was it just a false interpretation we had, but we certainly felt it this way!
Now before I could look to be right, I also could just be happy. And in this case, I don’t really mind to be right. I mean, I can totally accept all kind of disagreement without feeling attacked or threatened whatsoever. I can even appreciate the person in front of me and love him/her while he/she is not ok with my point of view.
It means that most of the time, I must admit that I want to be true because I feel insecure in the disagreement. It means that I’m mainly not happy than happy.
So now I’m looking at such moment as a way to change my feelings. If I can accept a disagreement, withouth confusing that with a rejection of any kind, I’ll probably be much more likely to feel happy!
Do you join me on this challenge?
