Why you should never give up, and why you must know that what you do pays off!
Let me tell you a little bit how I experienced my day… and the emotions and feelings that went with it!
Ups and downs
A little regain of energy with good emotions when I met some friends that shared there undertakings with me. At that moment I felt life was full of good things to develop, and the inspiration was there.
But just a few hours later, I was feeling lonely and more or less desperate. I’ve lived a certain way for so many years that I was clearly doubting I could really live another way with much more love and much more deep relations! And that’s clearly what I feel I miss most…
I also realized that my emotions were entertaining a story that led nowhere. I always have this feeling that I need a girl to give me her love and recognize me as worthy of her love. A feeling that makes me both unhappy and powerless… But I felt so much I needed that!
Emotions can’t control my life
Then I decided to react! I was supposed to go out with friends this evening, and I knew I had to decide with more conviction who I wanted to be. I realized that doing some opposition sport is really a good means to reinforce your control over your mental. Which I used to do for years but I don’t do anymore for several years now. And I have to compensate for that!
At this point I noticed that my emotions, that I always find so compelling, that I really feel are who I am, are just a story that I validate in my mind. And then I live through this story.
But I can also state with a certain pride “I feel great, I am great!”. As I would do when starting a judo competition for example (I practiced judo for years). And that works as well if that’s what you decide!
Last, but not least, I quickly decided to take action. Any action, but action! As I know that any positive action makes you experience just another part of your life. A part it is just impossible to conceive as long as you haven’t moved! So I started cleaning my bathroom, stating I was feeling great and I was great!
That’s a good thing to do. Things really change as you really change your experience, and in the end you feel you are just somebody different! And you have totally control over that. Lonely is just a story in my head, and my past experiences are just not real anymore.
Then I went to my salsa party. I thought that each time I live in my emotions, I’m just keeping a past story as if it was my reality. And my best stories have always been moments where I was fully experiencing what was happening now, not in the past. So in the end I was just creating a new experience right now, not knowing what would happen next.
- Best moments = new creation in the “now”
- Negative emotions = living from past stories, thinking the reality is there, and being unhappy because of “now” not being this past
Conclusion of my day
Now guess what… My evening was a real good evening with loveable girls and new friends everywhere!!! The kind of night where you come back and realize the best is there, and you just want to explore more of that!
I just thought that it was fortunate that I regained a “sane” mind shortly before leaving. So that I had been able to take (almost) the most of this evening!
So in the end, I want to say that no matter what you can feel, negative emotions are always a trap that keep you away from the best experiences you can live… now!
And whatever you do, believe in you, not in the story of you. Ressources are always within reach. Just keep on doing what you know is a good thing, and dismiss any negative story of you.
You are always ready to live the best. Just keep your mind focused on where you have decided to go… and take action! Any action!
