Because of emotions we actually “live” the stories we have in our head. If I am convinced I am lonely, I will feel it in my body and I will feel disconnected from everyone else.
Emotions are very powerful, especially as we have almost no idea of what to do with them. We become a victim of our own emotions because we don’t understand what this is all about.
Emotions come from our stories
Emotions are the result of what we believe, what we perceive, what we think. But all that is totally subjective! This is translated into a sensation in our body so that we can experiment this subjective reality no matter what.
It can be a sensation of enthusiasm that will follow us all day long because of how we perceive our world. But it is most of the time a sensation of difficulty, that we try to avoid at any cost.
Our stories come essentially from the past, and we think the future is going to be the same. So when we decide to change our future, and so our present, we have to face this kind of inertia which brings back our past emotions all day long!
Don’t fight your emotions
If you want to change what you feel, you have to create another experience with new kind of sensations. That way your memory is going to record a new scenario for a given situation, and little by little will replace the old emotions by the new ones.
If you try to escape your emotions, you just let them running in the background.
If you try to fight them, you are going to focus on them, and so on the story they sustain. That way you’re going to entertain them instead of creating new emotions.
Treat your emotions as a weak opponent
Imagine someone who wants to fight with you. He is clearly much weaker as you are, so his only ressource is to try to make you feel weak. He’s going to do everything he can to create negative emotions within you.
If you are not aware of what is happening, you can quickly get scared by this opponent.
But if you are used to fight, you know that it’s completely part of the game, and you don’t let him upset you. Even if you feel some pressure, and negative emotions arise, you don’t put any importance on them.
You know they have no power at all! They are just sensations in your body that come from a false impression. And you also know that the fight is not there. So you keep focused on what is really important, and you put all your energy into the fight itself.
That’s what does a fighter ; )
Now what is your fight? It is much more interesting than to fight someone! It is to focus your attention, your thoughts, your actions, your behavior, on what you whant now!!!
And if this weak opponent (which are your past stories) can’t upset you anymore… you have all power to be who you decide to be!
