The problem with our stories is that they present us the truth the other way round.
What seems love hides in reality hate, what seems being desperate hides in truth feeling love!
When I say to myself that I need no one in particular to feel connected and experience love, I mostly perceive that as being alone!
But when my solution is feeling some love from a particular girl, what is it in reality?
I am totally closed to all other girls around me, and to their love. There might be 100 girls around, I won’t even perceive one of them! For sure! Because our brain is made so that it perceives only what confirms its truth and forgets everything else.
Then, how could I feel I need the love of a special girl if I was connected to 100 other girls and I was sharing love with them? Even with just one or two?
If I want to keep that story of the love of a special girl being the solution, I must ignore the reality. I must isolate myself, at least in my mind and my stories. Now only this version of the reality can be true.
What is the reality?
Am I really alone if I don’t need that girl and her love in particular?
No, of course! I just have to decide to be warm with all the people (and the girls) around me, and I’m quickly going to realize how many girls would like to share a relationship full of love with me!
The only thing that can still stops me from making this choice is a kind of resentment. I think there is something like that that I protect. A story where a girl in particular must love me. And it is just not fair if that doesn’t happen this way!
Why do I have this kind of feeling? At least this difficulty to go from one story (false) to the truth? Even if there is always a kind of inertia in my emotions that reminds me of my old stories, I should quickly focus on the new one and keep only this one!
So I must admit that I don’t know. Anyway, the solution is still in focusing on all the love that is there, all around, no matter what a special girl does or not. And if I want to start to perceive this world, the only real solution to open the door frankly is to start by being myself warm with everyone around me.
Everyone is deeply looking for love, and I can contribute so easily to ease each person I meet…!
