How many times have you deeply felt this lack of friends, love, recognition, attention, importance… in your life?
How desperate we can be then! Thinking there is not much to do, and that this world cruelly lacks of this, at least for us, here and now!
Those situations can really be unbearable! Yet the solution is always around…
Why can life be so empty?
The problem with our stories of how things should be so that we have what would make us happy, is that they are false.
And very often they start like that: I need this and that to fill this gap. And this or that is something totally outstide of me. That I don’t control at all. Sometimes that I don’t even have any idea of where that could come from!
But what we don’t realize in those moments, is that all our conditions, our surroundings, and even what we do perceive or not, wheter it is actually there or not, depends only on ourself.
We create our life, not only in real things, but mainly in a subjective way. If we are just able to change our mindset, our beliefs, and act accordingly, we suddenly become someone else, with a total different life!
Change must come from YOU! And it’s not a philosophical statement, but a very practical one!!!
If you change, your life changes. The people around you change, because they act differently and you find out new personalities, and because you meet new persons too!
You are the one who decides what is the life you live in. Focus on what you want to develop, and grow this life right now!
Start by yourself
Who are you? Take a notepad and write down what are your own traits of characters, beliefs and behaviors that you value! Focus on you first. Your life will have to adapt to what you focus on. It’s the law!
So why can we feel so desperate and feel that life cruelly lacks of certain values for us? Because we look outside of us to find them, whereas we are the one who controls all that. And we control it by being the person we choose to be and developing those aspects!
So yes! Life has always all that you want, and much much more! But also what you don’t want. So choose well what you’re focusing on, from now on!
