The reality that comes to my mind today is:
- I don’t know what’s happening
- I don’t understand why it is happening
- I don’t control it
And there is only one thing I can do about it: accept it…
It’s exactly the opposite that I’ve always tried to do: understand, control.
If I want to do that with myself, fine! But when it comes to relationships, I have to admit that I have control only on 50% of it. The remaining is just none of my business… even if I stand in front of it and I have to make do with the consequences.
It seems a little hard like that. But I think that accepting this reality is the first step towards a more logic behavior. And so towards less sadness, and in fine, towards more happiness.
Problems will arise as long as I want to deny this reality.
But on the other hand I’m perfectly confident that my happiness is something that I control entirely. So it means that even if I need strong relationships to feel happy, and even if I have only 50% of control on each one, I can find those relationships no matter what. But they’re going to move, to evolve, to change, and I must adapt.
The reality is alive, and so must be my perception.
