If you read spiritual teachings, there is one thing that comes back regularly: we don’t need anyone to make us complete. We are already complete.
It is something that I always try to keep in mind when I feel that I need a girl to make me feel affectively safe. In that case I know that there is something, like a gap, within me that needs to be “filled” by myself. Obviously this gap doesn’t really exists, but it is the sensation that I have.
That’s probably the most profound example about myself. But I think we’re all looking to fill something with someone else. And each time, that’s a “solution” that will never work, or not for long.
Not only is it a recipe for unhappiness, because the other person is always going to disapoint us at some point. And we put way too much responsibility on their shoulders. But we also miss the point that what we think is missing within us has to be found within us. Because it is the only place where we can really find all that we’re craving for!
That being said, there is no way that we can live on our own. We deeply need to be and to feel profoundly connected with other persons! I think that’s the most important need we have on a “spiritual” plan. Or, simply said, on an emotional level.
So basically, I think it is important to look within us to find what is missing. And in the meantime to truly connect to others in order to feel alive and express ourselves!
And it is only because we don’t need someone to fill our gaps, that we can truly connect and experience the most beautiful thing on earth…!
Live a life full of love!
